Last updated December, 2017.
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Here's the story:
The Buddha once asked a student, “If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?” The student replied, “It is."
The Buddha then asked, “If the person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?” The student replied again, “It is."
The Buddha then explained, “In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional.”
The Buddha was describing different types of suffering.
The first arrow affects all of us by virtue of the fact that we are born. If you are reading this, it is safe to say you were born, and you will experience the "pain" of life that is growing old and dying.
This type of suffering is unavoidable. It happens to all of us.
We can have a good attitude about it, and we can make peace with it. But, we cannot avoid it. We all have a body that - if we are fortunate - will take us to old age. However, with growing old comes illness and a general "wearing out."
And, ultimately (of course) death.
The second arrow the Buddha discusses is describing another type of suffering. This suffering results from our sense of self, and how we view the world around us. Our compulsive minds fuel this second arrow.
We get lost in thoughts and emotions, and we build a story around them that constantly plays in our heads. This inner narrative becomes our identity:
If we don't become aware of what's happening in our minds, the suffering caused by the second arrow will be constant and pervasive.
But, with mindfulness and meditation, we can see thoughts, emotions, and stories for what they are: not permanent.
We can notice them as they come and go, like clouds in the sky. In watching them arise, exist, and cease, we learn not to get caught up in (or attached to) any of it.
As we develop awareness, we find that we don't become as upset, angry, or defensive as we once did. We find that we react less and less to the "mind-made drama."
So, while the first arrow is simply the nature of reality, the second arrow is our own creation.
The good news is, we can be liberated from the second arrow!
Mindfulness and meditation show us that we don't have to follow our minds wherever they lead, or be a victim to the suffering they create.
What are you trying to "cope" with?
Coping doesn't work - addressing the root cause does. We'll show you how.