Pam Harris, Madison, Wisconsin:
This sentence changed everything for me: 'There's an alternative to constantly being swept away by the stories playing in your head.' I never realized how most of my day was spent being dragged around by my mind. It's like I was stuck in a bad dream, but didn't know it.
All of us have stories playing in our heads - stories about what's happening now, stories about what happened in the past, stories about what might happen in the future.
They tend to revolve around "If only" scenarios, and the never-ending desire for things to be different than they are:
These stories fuel a process that has us continually trying to change our environment so we're surrounded by everything we like, and protected from everything we dislike. And, this process culminates in most of the struggles we deal with on a daily basis:
To complicate matters, we generally aren't even aware this is going on. We're oblivious to it because we're perpetually spellbound by our inner narrative, and lost in thoughts and emotions.
So the process continues unabated, moment after moment after moment, without much interference (or influence) from us.
Sure, when we get overwhelmed by our struggles, we try to cope in various ways:
But, none of our "coping" provides lasting relief because none of it addresses the root cause. To the contrary, most of it simply creates more struggles for us to deal with.
Does any of this sound familiar? If so, we wrote "An owner's guide to the mind" for you.
It teaches you how your mind works, and provides a path to help you move beyond "coping" to achieving and maintaining a more consistent state of well-being. If you do your part - if you put in the time and effort - you'll discover life can be dramatically different in just a few short weeks.
And, you don't have to wear funny robes, chant, or sit in an uncomfortable position...unless you want to!
Steve Jacobson, Stamford, Connecticut:
They tend to revolve around "If only" scenarios, and the never-ending desire for things to be different than they are:
- "If only I had a new job..."
- "If only I could find the perfect partner..."
- "If only that person would do this (or stop doing that)..."
- "If only I would have said 'X' or done 'Y'..."
- "If only I had more money...or weighed less...or was the boss...or had a new [insert noun of choice here]..."
- "If only..."
These stories fuel a process that has us continually trying to change our environment so we're surrounded by everything we like, and protected from everything we dislike. And, this process culminates in most of the struggles we deal with on a daily basis:
- stress;
- endless worry;
- extreme emotions;
- an inability to break bad habits;
- feelings of anxiety and depression;
- a negative self-image;
- sleep problems;
- tension headaches;
- neck and back pain;
- a lack of focus;
- and on and on.
To complicate matters, we generally aren't even aware this is going on. We're oblivious to it because we're perpetually spellbound by our inner narrative, and lost in thoughts and emotions.
So the process continues unabated, moment after moment after moment, without much interference (or influence) from us.
Sure, when we get overwhelmed by our struggles, we try to cope in various ways:
- We acquire material things;
- We change jobs;
- We see the doctor or therapist;
- We take prescription medication;
- We end one relationship and start another;
- We eat too much, drink too much, or use drugs;
- We take vacations;
- We consume self-help/self-improvement resources;
- We try "forced positive thinking" or repeating affirmations;
- We bury ourselves in work, games, or other activities.
But, none of our "coping" provides lasting relief because none of it addresses the root cause. To the contrary, most of it simply creates more struggles for us to deal with.
Does any of this sound familiar? If so, we wrote "An owner's guide to the mind" for you.
It teaches you how your mind works, and provides a path to help you move beyond "coping" to achieving and maintaining a more consistent state of well-being. If you do your part - if you put in the time and effort - you'll discover life can be dramatically different in just a few short weeks.
And, you don't have to wear funny robes, chant, or sit in an uncomfortable position...unless you want to!
Steve Jacobson, Stamford, Connecticut:
Straightforward, clear, and effective - it's like earning a PhD in the workings of your mind.
What is it?
We created "An owner's guide to the mind" to address the root cause of your struggles and suffering.
It's received a lot of recognition over the past 15+ years, including currently being ranked #3 out of 25 in MobileMedia's "Improve your life" category. Most important, it's been proven effective by people around the world.
It combines concepts from rational emotive behavior therapy (the precursor to cognitive behavior therapy), Stoicism, and Buddhist philosophy. It's online and self-paced, and represents the culmination of almost two decades of research, writing, and working with people around the world.
What do you do with it?
"An owner's guide to the mind" is structured and easy to follow.
You start by reading the core program (Table of Contents). Once you complete it, you begin the 21 days of instruction.
Additional information:
You don't need to download anything, and it doesn't matter where you live in the world - as long as you can access our website with the browser on your computer, tablet, or smartphone (like you're doing right now), you can read it.
We frequently update the material - since it's browser-based, you'll always be viewing the most recent version. And, you never have to pay for updates, revisions, or added information (our most recent update was April, 2019).
How do you get it?
We attempt to make "An owner's guide to the mind" affordable for everyone.
The price is $14. There are no additional charges. There are no ongoing monthly fees.
You have lifetime access, and will always be able to revisit the material.
Click here to get started.
Lee Tibbots, Chicago, Illinois:
We created "An owner's guide to the mind" to address the root cause of your struggles and suffering.
It's received a lot of recognition over the past 15+ years, including currently being ranked #3 out of 25 in MobileMedia's "Improve your life" category. Most important, it's been proven effective by people around the world.
It combines concepts from rational emotive behavior therapy (the precursor to cognitive behavior therapy), Stoicism, and Buddhist philosophy. It's online and self-paced, and represents the culmination of almost two decades of research, writing, and working with people around the world.
What do you do with it?
"An owner's guide to the mind" is structured and easy to follow.
You start by reading the core program (Table of Contents). Once you complete it, you begin the 21 days of instruction.
Additional information:
- The average read time for the core program is just over 2 hours;
- Your time commitment for the daily instruction is 15-25 minutes each day (broken into segments, not all at once);
- You can contact us via email with questions (we usually respond within 48 hours).
You don't need to download anything, and it doesn't matter where you live in the world - as long as you can access our website with the browser on your computer, tablet, or smartphone (like you're doing right now), you can read it.
We frequently update the material - since it's browser-based, you'll always be viewing the most recent version. And, you never have to pay for updates, revisions, or added information (our most recent update was April, 2019).
How do you get it?
We attempt to make "An owner's guide to the mind" affordable for everyone.
The price is $14. There are no additional charges. There are no ongoing monthly fees.
You have lifetime access, and will always be able to revisit the material.
Click here to get started.
Lee Tibbots, Chicago, Illinois:
Years of therapy didn't help me, but 'An owner's guide to the mind' did. I'm not exaggerating when I say it saved my life.
