Last updated November, 2017.
note: we link to our free guide to mindfulness and meditation at the end of this article (no email required).
Our minds are always trying to fix problems.
That's good if there is actually something to fix. But, it's terrible if there isn't.
You've probably heard the old saying "If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail." It's the same with our minds, except everything looks like a problem instead of a nail.
And, if you go through your days under the influence of a mind that views everything this way, you will suffer a lot of stress and anxiety. Unfortunately, this tends to be exactly how we go through our days.
According to our minds, nothing is ever good "as it is" - something needs to be added, taken away, or changed. That voice in our heads tells us we can be happier and more content "if only" something else happens: if only we get a new job, if only we find the perfect partner, if only we get the latest gadget or pair of shoes, and on and on.
The promise of happiness always lies just over the horizon, once we achieve "this," acquire "that," or change something about our current experience. But, no matter what we achieve or acquire, happiness is always going to be just over the horizon: it's a trap of the mind.
How do we escape this trap and stop the endless quest? We have to strengthen awareness. Awareness allows us to observe thoughts without getting caught up in them. It allows us to break free from an inner narrative that constantly has us chasing the next person, place, or experience it assures will lead to fulfillment.
You can strengthen awareness by building a consistent meditation practice, and bringing mindfulness to your daily life. The good news is, we have a free guide that will teach you how to do it. You don't need to register or provide any information - just go read it.
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