Last updated October, 2018.
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The question: "When I meditate, am I training my mind?"
It's a common thing to say - meditating trains your mind. Or, it tames you mind. Or, it silences your mind. But, none of those are accurate.
It would be more accurate to say meditating trains your attention.
Your mind is compulsive, and feelings, thoughts, emotions, and other mental activity are incessant and pervasive.
When it comes to mind-made activity, you have a choice: you can indulge it OR you can let it be as it is, independent from you and your attention.
"Indulge" is defined as "becoming involved in an activity, typically one that is undesirable." When you indulge your mind, you are caught up in it. It would be more accurate to say mindlessly indulge, because we usually aren't aware we are doing it. It's our normal state: we are swept away by thoughts without realizing it, and we blindly follow our minds wherever they lead.
"Being caught up in it" perpetuates mental activity, and gives rise to more of it. This often culminates in you being buried in a landslide of mental noise (as Tolle says, the human condition is "lost in thought").
The other option - letting it be as it is, independent from you and your attention - is commonly referred to as "letting thoughts and emotions go," or letting them pass. What it really means is moving your attention away from them.
Where do you move your attention to? If you are meditating, to an anchor (usually your breath or a mantra).
If you aren't meditating, to the present moment and what you are doing here and now. This is called being mindful.
Your mind will do what it will do. Your job isn't to control it - it's to stop letting it control you.
It's important to clarify these misconceptions, because people come to meditation believing they are going to "train their mind" and make it quiet. They quickly find out they can't do that, so they get frustrated and give up.
And then they go back to a life of stress, anxiety, depression, self-doubt, and all the other struggles that meditation and mindfulness - properly taught and applied - can help you overcome.
Stop dealing with the symptoms.
Stress, anxiety, self-confidence issues, the inability to stop bad habits, problems with sleep and focus, and on and on and on.
These and the other things we struggle with every day are only symptoms.
The good news is, they all share the same root cause. The bad news is, if you don't address that root cause, the symptoms will keep coming back no matter what you do.
That's why we wrote "An owner's guide to the mind." For almost 20 years, people have been using it to address the root cause of their daily struggles.
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