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That voice in your head is constantly narrating the world around you. It labels and judges everything. And, it's never satisfied with the present moment.
To the contrary, something always needs to be fixed, changed, added, or taken away. Why?
It seems the primary function of our minds is to solve problems. You may have heard the saying
"If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail."
It's the same with our minds, except everything looks like a problem.
That's why being happy and content never lasts. Happiness fades, and we grow restless with what we have (or we want what we don't have).
And that voice in your head tells you that you can be happier and more content "If only" something else happens:
According to your mind, happiness is just over the horizon "once you acquire this" or "achieve that."
The trap we all fall into is no matter what we acquire or achieve, happiness is always going to be "just over the horizon" - if we listen to our minds.
You can see this for yourself: examine your mind and its activity today. Is anything ever good "as it is?" Or, is there something that needs to be fixed, changed, added, or taken away? Even if something appears perfect or ideal at first, does that voice eventually chime in with "It could be better if only..."?
Using mindfulness and meditation to strengthen awareness and apply it will help you escape this trap. We have a free guide that teaches you to do just that. It's been shared almost a million times, and you don’t need to register or provide any information - just go read it.
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